Kissing is an integral part of foreplay, and sometimes, a really good makeout session can be enough to enjoy some quality romantic time with a partner. So whether you’re new at kissing or are aspiring to better your skills, here are a few makeout tips you need to know.
If You’re New to Kissing
‘Making out’ is a colloquial term for kissing, often with tongue. In some cases, petting and fondling may be involved. If you are new to kissing, starting slow is perfectly reasonable. Remember, kissing takes practice, and not every kiss has to be a makeout session. There are many different types of kisses, including pecks on the cheek, forehead, or even the lips. You can also choose to go for a deeper kiss without a tongue. You should never kiss someone if you feel pressured or uncomfortable.
If You’re Familiar With Kissing
There’s always room for improvement, right? The best way to assess your kissing abilities is to ask your partner for some feedback. This, of course, works best with a trusted partner with whom you are comfortable asking for feedback. If you’re not comfortable asking for feedback or are with a new partner, check out our tips to see where you can improve.
Making Out, the Basics
Before we dive into tips and tricks, let’s go over the basics of a makeout session:
Choose a Place
Choosing a comfortable and appropriate makeout setting is key to a great makeout session. Of course, the best location will depend on your and your partner’s preferences. When in doubt, having a place that allows you some privacy is always desirable. This can be a bedroom, a car, or a secluded area. Of course, if you and your partner are comfortable having an audience, you may find a public place but one where a bit of displayed affection is acceptable.
Set the Mood
Candles, music or even something that you and your partner consider romantic can help set the mood for a makeout session.
Whether you are with a new or established partner, make sure that you are both comfortable with the situation. If you are shy about making the first move, send out some signals like sneaking glances at your partner’s lips or leaning in to see if your partner takes the hint. If you are feeling bold, you can watch your partner’s body language and lean in for a kiss. Remember, however, that consent is key– if you are uncertain, just ask.
Start with a simple kiss, without tongue- a light brush of lips. This is also a great way to ensure that your partner is comfortable. If all goes well, consider opening your mouth a bit and then adding your tongue. You can also place your hands on your partner, touching their face, waist, or legs.
As you and your partner are comfortable, let your hands start to roam to more intimate places. For example, if your hands were on your partner’s shoulders, you can move them to your partner’s face or neck. You can also begin to gently caress your partner and gently run your fingers through their hair, close to the scalp. You can also get more intimate by touching your partner’s chest or even gliding a hand up their thigh.
Proceed to the Next Stage
Sometimes, a makeout session is simply that- a makeout session. However, if you and your partner are both comfortable, the makeout session can progress into foreplay, which you can initiate by stimulating erogenous zones.
Important Tips to Keep in Mind
Now that we’ve covered the basics, here are a few makeup tips to keep in mind:
Check Your Breath
Kissing with bad breath can be a little awkward and gross. So, if you are planning a makeout session, consider chewing on some gum or snagging a breath mint beforehand. If you choose gum, make sure that you spit it out before going in for the kiss.
Kissing after a meal can be a bit awkward. Fortunately, if you and your partner have had very similar foods, you both may not feel repulsed by each other’s breath.
While most people want to jump into a passionate makeout session– after all, that’s what we see in the movies and read about in romance novels- starting slow is often more prudent if you do not know your partner.
Do as Much or as Little as You Like
While making out involves a range of possible actions and outcomes, you do not have to do more than you feel comfortable doing. For example, if you prefer, you can choose to kiss only, without getting hands-on. Or, if you want to do a bit more, you certainly can.
Making out is a flexible term, and if you want to take a break from your partner’s lips to kiss their cheek, neck, or another body part, you certainly can, providing your partner is comfortable. You can also explore the erogenous zones on your partner’s body.
Mind Your Hand Placement
Leaning in for a makeout session can be a little bit precarious, so first and foremost, you want to ensure that you have a stable handhold for yourself and your partner.
Don’t Be Shy About Feedback
Give feedback if your partner asks for it. After all, how else will they get to know what you like? On the other hand, if you feel shy about telling them that they have done something wrong, consider focusing on what they did right!
- Making out can involve kissing, fondling, and petting.
- A makeout session is great on its own but can also evolve into something more such as foreplay or even intercourse.
- Consent is critical, and if you are uncertain about how your partner is feeling, just ask them.
- Take your time. Start the kiss slow, without tongue, and then let it grow deeper. Though, in some cases, a passionate all-in kiss is also warranted.